Well, I put off updating for a bit because I actually had a (I thought) quite successful audition a little over a week ago, and was hoping to hear back from them. It doesn’t look likely, though – and may I add that I just hate that trend? Maybe that’s been the case all along for auditions, but nowadays that seems to happen for “regular” job interviews, as well. I understand that it’s uncomfortable and time consuming, but even a form letter would be nice.
I dream of a day one would get some kind of constructive criticism or feedback from every job interview or audition, but I realize that’s a pipe dream.
Anyway. I never heard back from them, which bummed me out. And it’s still kind of bumming me out! I will not lie to you! I thought I was a pretty good fit for what they wanted, but someone else must have been better.
One of the things that’s dawned on me lately is the futility of angsting over anything that I can’t change or do anything about. I can’t change my bone structure or my height. I can’t control how other people feel about me or perceive me. I can’t control whether I get a gig or not. I can’t change the fact that I didn’t start taking singing lessons until I was past twenty; I can’t change the fact that my first voice teacher wasn’t really teaching me so much as giving me an opportunity to sing. I can’t change the fact that I didn’t study music earlier in my life. Instead, what I have endeavored to do is:
- Go for a run or do some yoga. I can change how active I am and how comfortable I am in my body.
- Study the music theory that Maestro has given me, or practice the guitar. I can progress from where I am now, even though I can’t go back in time.
- Look for new opportunities and submit for them. I can optimize the time I have now.
- Practice, practice, practice, practice, practice. Breathing, singing. I can’t go back in time to convince twelve-year-old-me that a beautiful singing voice is something you have to work at, not something you’re just gifted with, but I can improve now.
It’s made an enormous impact on my day to day life, not just in my creative endeavors but in how I conduct myself in lots of other ways. I know that this is probably not something I will be able to do every day of my life – I’m way too neurotic and angsty not to have these issues crop up again – but it’s something that I am working on doing.
And as with everything else that I’ve been practicing lately, I am getting better.